Whether it is with your husband, your best friend, or someone at work, having an argument is never fun. The trust and the intimacy that took years to create can be severed in a matter of minutes. We might not be politicians skilled at the art of debate, but we can be better at diffusing an argument. Here are 5 ways to help you the next time you’re in the middle of a heated discussion.
Focus. Focus. Focus.
An argument can open the door to Pandora’s box. Just because he stayed out with the boys all night 10 years ago will not help you resolve your problem now. Stick to the point. If not, you could be in for a long night of arguing…
Think Before You Speak
Mull things over in your mind before you speak. Or better yet, say it in your head before you say it out loud. Razor sharp comments might make you feel great in the moment, but it can lead to years of hurt and resentment.
Solve the issue now (but after you had the time you need to cool off!)
Holding grudges does not do you any good. It is best to resolve an issue while it is still fresh in his mind and yours. Procrastinating didn’t make your homework go away, and it won’t make your problems disappear now. If you wait, you risk piling up unresolved issues that are bound to explode at the first opportunity.
Admit When You’re Wrong
If you’re in the middle of a clash of minds and realize that you’re actually wrong, admit defeat. Apologize that you’re wrong when you are wrong. It might be difficult to do, especially if the other person has been yelling at you for 5 minutes, but they will appreciate your honesty. Not only that, but they will be more inclined to admit that they’re wrong in return.
If you know the other person is in the wrong, let them rant. Keeping quiet during an argument will help you keep your calm, organize your thoughts, and in some cases, it might even give you the upper hand.
Arguments happen. Disagreements are part of life, but it doesn’t have to be a long drawn out affair. After all is said and done, cool down with a glass of wine together.
What are some of your proven tactic to diffuse an argument?